Thursday, October 4, 2007

I'm Glad Tomorrow is Friday

Hi Everyone!  It's been a very busy week for me.  Work has been very difficult on me this week.  I have to tell you, I don't have to, but I choose to tell you that even though we aren't supposed to be emotional in the lives of our clients is so difficult to be that objective and hold back our emotions when they are telling you heart wrenching things.  I do a good job in that area while I am with them but a couple of times this week after they have left when the session was over I pretty much broke down in tears at my desk.  My heart takes over sometimes and I have to let the emotions out.
I am a very emotional person by nature.  I don't exactly know why that is.  I have been able to not show these emotions in front of the client and I fear someday I won't.  We, as therapists, are not supposed to have any emotional attachment to the people who come to pour out their lives to us.  To me it is unrealistic unless you are a robot.   I swear that in my sessions we end up going through at least two boxes of tissues a week.
My Aunt and Uncle have had a hard week.  My Uncle's mother has been in the hospital since Monday and was supposed to be released on Tuesday.  I hope so much that things will get back to normal to all of them real soon.  It hurts me to see anyone in anguish.
Then there is my friend Jae, not only is her son battling illness, thankfully it is looking better for him, but she is having her own physical problems.  I just pray that all these situations will resolve themselves quickly and positively.
I do have some good news to report.  My friend Jenna is going to have a baby.  I am so excited for her and Tom!  You go girlie girl!  LOL
I am sure Lisa is happy right now, all plopped down in front of the TV watching her favorite actress Jorja Fox on CSI.
To Brandi, I hope you have fun and a successful flight attendant training.
I wanted to send a special thank you out to my best friend Heather.  She sent me a bouquet of the most beautiful flower arrangement you ever saw.  That put a big smile on my face when I needed one most!  Luv ya H!
To my friend Beverly, can't wait to taste your wonderful quesadilla recipe tomorrow.  Don't forget it!  LOL
I hope you all have a wonderful Friday.  TGIF.  Luv ya!  TTFN


lisa41076 said...

Awwwwww Allison, I am so sorry your week has been difficult, I hope your Friday is a little better, praying for your Uncle's mom and Jae, I found out more bad news that Jorja may be leaving tonight, made me cry, oh God this is so hard, Love Ya Lisa

mleighin21st said...

Hi Allison,  Hope your weekend will be better than your week was.  I also work in a field where you're not supposed to get emotionally involved with the client.  If you're any kind of caring person(which you obviously are) how can you help not getting involved?  You're one of the healers in this world, and making a difference in someone's life is a reward all in itself.  
                            Blessings,  Leigh

glensfork4 said...

Sorry you have had a rough week....I have been down in the dumps lately too....don't have a reason, just BLAH. Here's to a good weekend with many smiles.


rdautumnsage said...

I've been on both sides of a therapist quary. Simply put I tend to get emails daily over things I've written, where people talk to me freely about how I have somehow opened up doors within them by my words. I advise solely on my own personal feelings, I make sure they are aware of that. At times I feel helpless I can't do more, experience has taught me you can't make someone understand why things are the way they are. They have to find out for themselves or nothing will ever come of it.

I say both sides as I've gone through quite a few therapist and therapy sessions myself. I had one woman that actually asked me if I didn't think I deserved the abuse or asked for it simply by the way I dressed and acted. I gave her a piece of my mind. How a person dresses has nothing to do with the abuse someone lays out on someone. Another felt my sessions where invitations to nap. The last one was a wonderful man and continues to remain a friend of mine, even though I no longer require his therapy. Having said this, I think the best therapist are the ones who feel for their clients and don't see a project in front of them, or a paper to be written.

Yes, I have had those too. With me you have a deaf Cherokee woman, who has endured sexual abuse as a child, domestic abuse, been raped, beaten, drug use as well as alcohol dependency. The biggest draw being the effects of abuse on someone who is disabled. I'm sorry I know this is rather long. I just want you to know it meant alot to read you feel for your clients. (Hugs) Indigo

imgr8phil said...

Sorry that you have been a little on the downside this week.  If it is any consolation, I can tell you I have too.  I hope you have a good time at the USC game, I wish I was going but life happened instead.  Take care cutestuff!


yakima127 said...

You are such a sweet person!  Thank you for your kind words here, and in every comment you leave in support of my daily trials I write about in my journal...
I have one thing to say about therapists and emotions; I say a psychiatrist for 6 years, while in the midst of a major depression (that yes, lasted more than 6 years).  He had NO problem staing detached.  It got to the point that I didn't want to say anything at all. just bide my time.  Watch the 50 minute hour tick away on the many clocks in his office.  Why did I keep going, you might wonder...?
Because I had nothing else.  It was the only place I could breathe.  Not talk, just breathe.  Like a life line that contributed nothing by way of bringing me out of the blackest pit I have ever known, but just knowing it was a possibility...the tiniest glimmer of hope.
I absolutely know for a fact that you are very good at what you do, and how you help people, just by how compassionate you are.  Your clients are very lucky to have you.  J

johhnw said...

Looks like you had quite a week.   I don't know how you could ever keep your emotions out of your work.  I know I could not.   Its good  you  have your family and friends...    My best to your Aunt an Uncle....   luvya